Sarah Cox

Sarah walks her talk! With over 35 years' experience in the health, healing and coaching field and running retreats in the Blue Mountains and now the South Coast, she uses a proven methodology which really works and gets results. Sarah is trained originally as a nurse which stimulated her interest in the field of psychology and health. She became a life coach and then extensively studied neuroscience, trauma, art therapy and equine assisted therapy and relationship therapy; specialising in Amago therapy. Using a specific approach Sarah takes you on an incredible journey of self-discovery. She works with helping you to resolve, childhood pain and conditioning, past issues, traumas, beliefs and any current habits, issues, ways of thinking and communication styles which stop you moving forward into a positive future. She helps and supports you to make the necessary changes, learn how to successfully emotionally regulate, to find your inner calm and develop your core confidence to find your true purpose in life. By helping you increase mind and body awareness and resilience you will learn how to relax no matter what is going on in your world. She gives you valuable resources to support this transformational work. Whether it's personal or in your relationships, Sarah has the tools to help and guide you to move forward with a sense of confidence and freedom towards a positive future where you will find love and be able to keep it and authentic happiness to live out your dreams and be able to love your life.

" I will meet you in need and walk with you to the other side. I can offer you a safe space where you will feel nurtured and understood as we gently explore your issues. I will assess where you are now and where you would like to be. I help and support you to close this gap. It will be an environment to create a relationship of trust, where we can then make a plan and go on a wonderful healing journey together implementing effective and sustainable ways to get you where you want to be."

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What is Imago therapy?

The Latin word “imago”—meaning “image”—refers to the “unconscious image of familiar love.”

There is frequently a connection between frustrations in adult relationships and early childhood experiences. As an example, individuals frequently criticised as a child will likely be highly sensitive to their partner’s criticism. Childhood feelings of abandonment, suppression or neglect will often arise in a marriage or committed relationship.

When such “core issues” repeatedly come up with a partner, they can overshadow all that is good in a relationship and leave us to wonder  whether he or she has chosen the right mate or whether they are compatible. We often start off in romantic love and move to the power struggle as our relationship progresses. We develop a negative pattern or dance in the relationship and this is repeated over and over and we wonder what happened.  We can not seem to break this pattern no matter how much we try. Imago therapy gives hope by helping couples to understand it is incompatibility in relationship which has the potential to create the most growth possible in relationship and in the individual. Couples learn to understand each other’s feelings and “childhood wounds” more empathically, allowing them to heal themselves and their relationships so they can move toward a more “Conscious Relationship.”

During Imago Relationship Therapy, couples learn it is the space in between which needs healing and they learn healing takes place by a new way of speaking to each other called Imago dialogue. This dialogue creates the feeling of being heard in the relationship and brings back trust and respect.

It is through the learning of “Imago Dialogue” the space in between is healed. It is a new way speaking and listening to one another and allows couples to move from blame and reactivity, to a feeling of safety, understanding and empathy, so they can create a deeper and loving connection with each other. This knowledge of dialogue turns conflict to hope.

The Dialogue must also be turned into action. In a conscious relationship we agree to change in order to give our partner what she or he needs. This is a radical idea. Conventional wisdom says that people don’t change, that we should simply learn to accept each other as we are. But without change, there is no growth; we are confined to the fate, to remaining stuck in our unhappiness. Stuck in the power struggle.

Change is the catalyst for healing. In changing to give our partners what they need, we heal our own painful experiences. Our own behaviour was born in response to our particular deprivations; it is our adaptation to loss. In giving our partners what is hardest for us to give, we have to bring our hidden selves out into the light, owning and enlivening parts of ourselves. When we change our behaviour in response to our mate, we heal our partner and ourselves.

In order to give our partners what they need, we need to stretch ourselves. This requires uncovering our own insecurities and our fears which is unnatural to us. Our resistance reflects our defences. When we listen to our defences we find the root to our childhood pain.

Over the course of time, as our partners demonstrate their love for us, as they learn about and accept our differences and our hidden selves and as we stretch to love our partners, our pain and self-absorption diminishes. We restore our empathic feelings for our partners and our feelings of connection which were lost in the pain of our childhood. Finally we learn to see our partners for themselves, with their own private world of personal meaning, their own ideas and dreams and not merely as extensions of ourselves.

When we understand that we have chosen our partners to heal certain painful experiences and that the healing of those experiences is the key to the end of longing, we have taken the first step on the journey to real love.

What we need to understand and accept is that conflict is supposed to happen. This is as nature intended it: Everything in nature is in conflict. Conflict is a sign that the psyche is trying to survive, to get its needs met and become whole. It’s only without this knowledge that conflict is destructive.

Divorce does not solve the problems of relationship. We may get rid of our partners, but we keep our problems, carting them into the next relationship. Divorce is incompatible with the intentions of nature.

Romantic love is supposed to end. It is the glue that initially bonds two incompatible people together so that they will do what needs to be done to heal themselves.

The good news is that although many couples become hopelessly locked in the power struggle, it too is supposed to end.

Regardless of what we may believe, relationships are not born of love, but of need; real love is born in relationships, as a result of understanding what they are about and doing what is necessary to have them.

You may already be with your dream partner, but at the moment, he or she is in disguise–and, like you, in pain. A Conscious Relationship itself is the practice you need to restore your sense of aliveness. The goal of Imago Practice is to change the power struggle and set you on the path of reward.

A conscious relationship is a spiritual path which leads us home again, to joy and aliveness, to the feeling of oneness we started out with. All through the course of Imago Practice, we learn to express love as a behaviour daily, in large and small ways: in other words, in stretching to give our partner what they need, we learn to love. The transformation of our relationships may not be accomplished easily or quickly; we are setting off on a lifelong journey.

An Imago therapist offers a safe space for you to start your journey as a couple and helps and supports you in the Imago process of learning dialogue. The reward is the very romantic love you felt in the beginning yet there is no end.

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Retreats  1 week, 3 nights or a day-Please click onto Retreats for our up coming Retreats

 Our retreats are designed and customised to the your individuals needs. Maximum of 10 people/Retreat

• Embodiment Retreat
• Painting Retreat
• Healing with horses
• The art of meditation and mindfulness
• Resilience and emotional regulation
• Olive harvest retreat 
• Love Mastery

What we teach and offer as components of our Retreats